40 Days of Forgiveness – Day 21 Letting Go of Being Perfect
“Today is a great day to give your best and be ok with the fact that you made mistakes.” ~ Taylor Tagg
Human perfectionism is one of those things we seem programmed to achieve.
“Get it right, no get it perfect!”
That’s tough to do all the time or any time for that matter.
Trying to be the symbol of perfectionism gets us in a mental state of continual disappointment and non-achievement because our efforts aren’t enough.
We let good effort and positive action pass us by, focusing intently on what was not done instead of what was done well.
Perfectionism can kill dreams, shut out happiness, and tune out small successes disguised as significant milestones.
Remember that your life is set up to stumble, so that you may get back up again to learn, to grow, and to prosper.
Napoleon Hill said, “Failure is a trickster with a keen sense of irony and cunning. It takes great delight in tripping one when success is almost with reach.”
I asked two good friends of mine come to Memphis to speak about their own adversities and defeats. Their talk at the local college was amazing.
Tom Cunningham and Tim Chhim spoke on practical ways to learn from defeats in life so that a person may take their own power to use and become who they were designed to be.
Their stories were prime examples that if perfection was our main focus, we would have bypassed the lessons that allowed us to not only survive but to thrive in our lives today.
All of that would have been lost with perfection.
Perfection is no one’s fault. I am a former perfectionist who now models excellent effort.
I realized that perfection was my defense mechanism to protect myself from blame, shame, and hurt.
“If I am perfect, then they will finally reward me.”
That just wasn’t true.
My own thinking was my own undoing. But I realized that to truly grow I needed to give myself a break and forgive my own perfectionism.
And that’s just what I did.
Now my life is a steady stream of growth and miracles, built one step at a time and full of mistakes.
In your own life, taking mistakes in stride, giving excellent effort, and being the best version of you is all this moment calls for.
And that’s good enough every time!