Tis’ the season of celebration of our savior’s birth, holiday spirit, being together, and the giving of gifts. And tis’ the season of heightened hurt, loneliness, and looming family drama coming to the surface.
Is there someone who need to forgive this Christmas season? Not for them of course, but for you? If you are like most of us, the holidays are a time of reflection on another year and the anticipation of a new one.
What if you and I finally forgave that person or ourselves that was long overdue? What if you could start out 2019 as white as snow…unblemished, free of guilt, without the hurt and pain, and live your life in a totally new way?
Well you can!
What stops us? The unknown of what happens after one forgives.
Will it come back to haunt me? Will I open a new can of worms that will be out of my control?
The fear of those thoughts says yes, but the reality is a big no. When one forgives fully and completely, it’s like a new lease on life. Fresh new energy becomes yours for the taking, your perspective on life gets larger, and you begin to see yourself with new eyes..eyes that are ready for the next chapter of life with a renewed joy and vibrancy.
And with a little nudge, one can easily and quickly forgive and be on their way to healing their soul. The goal is to get you back into a state of love and newness in your life sooner rather than later.
So can you forgive someone this Christmas season and turn the corner for a beautiful 2019?
Absolutely Positively Yes!
Here’s how to get started:
1. Decide It’s Time – Is your pain enough now to want to change it? Has that relationship or person irked you until you just can’t stand it anymore? If you answered Yes! to either or both of these questions, then its time to get some relief. First, make the decision its time to do something different even though you may not know what that something is. That’s ok. Then give yourself some space for the new opportunity to present itself.
2. Give Yourself Permission – each one my coaching sessions and workshops begins with someone giving themselves permission to make a change. What is permission? It’s simply a willingness for something different to happen that you have disallowed before. Why do we need to give permission?
In states of negativity and resentment, the mind automatically initiates an unconscious duty to protect oneself and harden. There is no fault in this…most of the time the mind is doing its job of keeping you alive and safe. To allow for an end to the bitterness and the flow of love to enter once again, one must override this protection by simply “granting permission” to do something different. It sounds so simple and really it is.
3. Release Yourself From the Other Person – part of the forgiveness process is a simple release statement…a formal declaration that you are going to be you now and the other person is free to be them…without any one’s permission!
It goes something like this: “I release you to be you. I release me to be me. And I release me from you!”
Really see that in your minds eye, feel it in your heart, hear the words, and take it in. You are declaring your release from the pain and all the circumstances surrounding it. It’s a simple statement that has surprisingly amazing effects when spoken out loud and with intention.
These three simple steps are a small snippet of the full forgiveness and releasing process. To get all of the benefits of putting an old story or situation behind you, take a chance on yourself and visit our ministry in 2019 by taking in a workshop, private session, or just to see what all the fuss is about.
Remember, Jesus was born into this world to give us his life, teach us how to live, and bring us back into the fold of God’s never ending love for us. Maybe its time to give Him our pain and open to the newness of starting over!
Take some time to use these three steps. They can give you immediate relief (maybe even big relief!) in your situation right now. Keep trusting in God’s grace, activate your faith in what is possible for your life, and good things will be yours in the coming year.
May Peace be with you and your family this Christmas season!